Feel the Fear, Do it Anyway
Fear’s a big thing these days. Nearly everyone I know is running scared. In the past 24 hours alone, I’ve had three separate conversations with 3 unrelated people in completely different parts of the country about how scared they are. I’m scared, too.
Our world is changing and none of us know whether we have whatever it is that it takes to make it in the “new economy.”
The way I’ve always dealt with fear in the past is to just white knuckle it. To force myself to do whatever it is that I have to do despite the fear. One thing that helps sometimes is to look at the thing I’m afraid of and write out the answers to 2 questions:
- What’s the absolute worst thing that could happen if I screw this up?
- What’s the best thing that could happen if I do this right?
Depending on the situation, exploring what’s likely to happen if I don’t do it at all, can sometimes be enough of a motivator.
The other thing I do, is I try to cut myself some slack. To be a little kinder to myself. To acknowledge that doing something that scares me is much, much harder than doing something that’s technically more difficult but not frightening.
I’m reminded of this daily as I watch my 3 (and 3/4!) year old navigate the world. When you’re little, so many things are scary but all these grown-ups keep saying “Don’t be scared, you can do it” and you trust them, so you do. And you learn that you can.
So, when I say “feel the fear, do it anyway”, I’m not being glib and I’m not downplaying how debilitating the fear can be. I’ve just come to realize that this is the only choice we’ve got.